|Keep Your Marriage - full review
Keep Your Marriage is a good book, but you can't say that it's truly an
"alternative to counseling" because Nancy Wason is, in fact, a
traditional counselor. And although the program is a book and not a
counseling session, the advice is essencially counseling. You might say
that Keep Your Marriage is a do-it-yourself counseling program. The
program is good from this point of view, however, counseling in general
is not effective, and so no matter how well written the book,
do-it-yourself counseling doesn't have a high success rate.
Nancy Wason does demonstrate how typical communication techniques
backfire and she does offer some effective suggestions.
Keep your Marriage is not a comprehensive program. Instead, there are
various formats offered. The Keep Your Marriage book is the flagship
program and the resource that covers the most ground, offers the most
techniques, and delivers advice for the most situations.
Overcome Control Conflict is an 8 CD set specifically designed for
people dealing with a controlling spouse. If you have the
passive-dominant dynamic playing out in your marriage, where one person
is the people-pleaser and the other spouse is the controller, then this
might be a useful tool for you. It teaches how to overcome controlling
behavior and learn to share power in the marriage. If you're trying to
save your marriage from this dysfunctional interplay then you will find
these teachings helpful.
One thing the Keep Your Marriage program does a good job of is
"cheerleading," in other words, inspiring you not to give up and to
stay motivated to make the proper effort to save your marriage. If you
need support, motivation, and inspiration to stay with your marriage
you will find these materials helpful.
One of the most painful marital experiences is the betrayal of an
affair. As a bonus to the Keep Your Marriage program there is material
on how to survive an affair and get your spouse to end their
infidelity. The recommendations are a bit unrealistic, but if you're
being betrayed by your spouse you might want to try to apply some of
Once you buy the program you do get the opportunity (for an additional
fee) to schedule private counseling sessions with Nancy Wason. If you
need 1-on-1 private counseling sessions you might appreciate the
opprotunity to talk to the author herself.